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| This photo of Mom was taken in 2017 on our trip to Colorado. It’s one of my favorites pictures of her. |
Hi Gang,
First of all, my Mom is good! She just celebrated her 92nd birthday, and she came to my house yesterday to check out the new floors.
She’s good. But she’s 92, and has a host of serious medical issues, which I will not divulge. The doctors would like her in the hospital so they can monitor her closely but she’s having none of it. The hospital is crowded, noisy and, as far as she is concerned, stifling. Stuck in one bed, with often noisy neighbors… she would rather be home.
And who can blame her? The docs are trying to find just the right balance. She would rather be home, where she can live her life in comfort with loved ones nearby. She gets to sleep in her own bed, eat her own food (or M’s) and do what she pleases when she pleases. She says if she feels bad, she can call an ambulance.
I can’t say as I blame her. Her mother spent the last five years of her life in bed, in pain, and in a nursing home. My Mom would rather LIVE the time she has left. She’s happy with M, and she has a reason to get up in the morning. That’s pretty good at her age.
I talk to her almost daily, and see her often. She’s only five miles away. I am well aware of how lucky I am that I have had her this long. Every day is a gift, and every day is OK. I’ve long since made my peace with it. I’m gonna miss her like crazy when she goes, but I’m not going to fret over whatever time she has left.
She could surprise us all.
Complications can happen at any age, but as we get older, mature, or just plain get old, they are more serious and can take longer to sort out.Much the same down here with both of us with hospital visits, stays that were not expected, and medication changes that all have side effects. Much love to your Mum as she is home, happy to be there, and you are not far away. It can be called " The Dash between the Years" and is so true of how we live those years. Your Mum is doing the very best to relish " The Dash".XXX to you all
ReplyDeleteGood for her! As a RN, I love that she knows it is not a safe place to be healthy-home is best for that. Cheers to waking each day we are gifted.
ReplyDeleteGood for your Mom for knowing what she wants! We recently lost our last cousin who lived in her home, alone, which is what she wanted. At 99-1/2, she passed away right there with her daughters tending to her.
ReplyDeleteI have always admired your mom's spirit and applaud her decision to LIVE the rest of her life her way. Like Nancy J said, your mom is making the very most of her 'dash'.
ReplyDeleteYour Mom and you have the right attitude. Each day is a gift.
ReplyDeleteI hope your mum continues to enjoy all the good things.
ReplyDeleteGood for your Mom! A noisy hospital filled with sick & injured people, stuck in bed is not the best situation.
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